on duke ellington’s birthday by diane ward
let’s reconsider saying “i always knew they were a creep” in response to allegations of sexual assault / abuse / rape, and think of something more supportive and productive to say or do / not say or do
About a month ago, Sophia Katz told me she was raped by a former friend and roommate of mine when she visited New York this past May. Yesterday, she published a piece chronicling the sexual abuse she experienced that week, using a pseudonym for her rapist. I shared the piece on multiple platforms and commended her bravery. I said, “This is very important, everyone should read this.” I said “We need to protect and support rape victims, defend young girls in the indie lit community against predatorial, privileged men.” Other people liked the post, shared it, added more supportive comments. But by the end of the day, there was no further discussion about it. No one asked who he is, even though he is an editor within a community we all participate in.
And then I realized, I hadn’t either.
I had felt afraid of ‘starting that war’ against him. I realized that maybe people were afraid to ask who he was because they already knew. Maybe he was someone they considered a friend. Maybe identifying him as a rapist made them uncomfortable and sad. Maybe they didn’t believe it.
I lived with this person for a year. I listened to the way he spoke about his exgirlfriend after she broke up with him. I listened when he told me he “didn’t see the point of hanging out with any of his female friends” because at the end of the day he doesn’t get to fuck them. I pulled my piece from his magazine that he had solicited me for because I no longer wanted to support the career of a casual misogynist.
We shouldn’t be afraid to discuss this publicly when Sophia has been brave enough to call out her abuser in a community where he has immense support and friendship. Stephen Tully Dierks should not be shielded because he is or was our friend. We should hold our friends as accountable as we hold everyone else, if not more.
i have in the past been associated w stephen tully dierks & pop serial but absolutely no longer wish 2 b. please spread sarah’s post. i am so disappointed in the male members of my various creative communities lately. women cant even feel safe in these purportedly “progressive” spaces. god fucking damnit.
i have identified in my life a thing that i can plan on having and appreciating as a positive agent forever
water is my “thing” right now
This is shit awesome and you should buy it and if you don’t know where to get it contact me.
this is shit awesome
by Tom Andrews
omg … have nothing significant to add other than that